As you anticipate your big day and share your dreams for the future, this is an exciting and busy time. Engaged couples often wonder whether premarital counseling is really necessary or helpful. Why not think of it as a wonderful opportunity to learn how to keep the romance alive for a lifetime?
For over a decade I’ve been helping couples learn to build and sustain a strong, honest, mutually sustaining marriage. Our work together is specifically tailored to your needs. The atmosphere is warm and supportive. Together we agree on goals and I work actively to help you reach them.
Even the happiest couples experience stress and conflict, and it’s essential to learn how to deal with these constructively as you prepare for the wedding and in the years to come. Today’s couples — with partners managing two careers, often while raising children — face unique challenges. You’re busy people with interesting lives, and as you seek to join together for a lifetime you need the skills to maintain an intimate, mutually nurturing relationship.
Ask about the premarriage package that’s right for you. This is a customized program to meet the needs of each couple. What you get:
- 4 to 6 private sessions for you and your fiance. Depending on your schedule and preferences, you can arrange for a series of 60-minute sessions about a month apart or we can double up on session 2 and 4.
- A detailed online premarital test to help you recognize strengths and growth areas and a written evaluation of how your life experience and personal styles are likely to influence your marriage;
- Research-based information on how to manage conflict, nurture closeness despite time pressures, and balance individuality and connection. You learn skills that will help you communicate honestly and lovingly so that in the future you will avoid getting stuck in destructive patterns. Money, intimacy, spirituality and community, children, family, work-life fit, time management and the wedding itself are all part of our conversation. The goal is not to find incompatibility but to shine a light on areas that can be even better. When appropriate, I give you handouts to take home and read or work on together.
- Extra supportbetween sessions when you have questions or concerns and desire a response from a caring spiritual mentor.
You can arrange for premarriage sessions anytime, but the best time is as soon as you get engaged. That way you can schedule them at your convenience, rely on solid support through all the stress of wedding plans. I do my best, but let’s try to avoid cramming in all your sessions between last-minute dress fittings! To learn more email Pastor Randy at firstname.lastname@example.org